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Discussion of Alcoholism

Re: Why he drinks?

Posted By: petersen
Date: Sunday, 25 February 2001, at 2:23 a.m.

In Response To: Why he drinks? (Adelene Yeo)

Adelene

Firstly, well done, there is an admission and some willingness to stop but there are some important issues to consider;

1. Why is it so important to know why he drinks or why he is an alcoholic? For now consider it an allergy, liken it it diabetes or seafood allergy.
2. Try to stay sober for a prolonged period because only then will he learn about himself, his emotions, his spiritual side, etc. The big difference really lies in the difference between admitting to a problem and accepting a problem
3. You have probably already become co-dependant - you both need help and you must learn that only when your boy friend learns to take full responsibility for his situation will recovery be possible

This you have from somebody that for 10 years fought a battle against alcohol misuse and eventually ended up in clinic for 6 weeks - I'm 130 days sober now and feeling better by the day. I'm convinced that alcohol has put a damper on my personal development and that my true potential is yet to be realised. I'm a single adult and thankful for not having made life miserable for a wife or children I loved.

Messages In This Thread

Why he drinks?
Adelene Yeo -- Monday, 22 January 2001, at 9:40 p.m.

Re: Why he drinks?
petersen -- Sunday, 25 February 2001, at 2:23 a.m.

Re: Why he drinks?
Dr. Robert L. Smith -- Monday, 14 January 2002, at 4:06 a.m.

Re: Why he drinks?
mikenone -- Friday, 12 July 2002, at 7:02 a.m.

Re: Why he drinks?
takes one to know one -- Saturday, 14 September 2002, at 5:54 p.m.

Re: Why he drinks?
takes one to know one -- Saturday, 14 September 2002, at 7:42 p.m.