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Discussion of Alcoholism

First steps

Posted By: D Williams
Date: Wednesday, 21 March 2001, at 1:11 p.m.

My boyfriend has a problem with drinking on a regular basis, particularly after work. I would say anywhere from 3-4 times during the week and then on the weekends. About 75% of the time that he drinks he gets very drunk to the point of passing out (but not getting sick). Knowing that I think he has a problem has resulted in him creating situations where I am not with him so that he can go out to the bar. His reaction to my sitting down with him broaching this subject is either "I just have a lot of problems to work through right now and it will get better soon" or "This is just the way that I unwind. It's what I have always done" It is particularly difficult as his group of friends (they have known each other since their late teens) all participate in this lifestyle. Work, bar, sleep. He seems to be able to go for a few nights without going to the bar but then he starts to get jumpy and the result is usually a very late night and a drunken stupor. He got a DUI a year and a half ago which seemed to settle him down for a while but he is now back to drinking and driving again. I'm talking about a lot of different things: relationship problems, drinking and driving, problems getting to work the next day. But I am most concerned with what it is doing to him and his life. He has sometimes said that he gets "carried away" too much and he needs to slow down. But I really don't think there is a definitive recognition of a problem on his part. Where to from here?

Messages In This Thread

First steps
D Williams -- Wednesday, 21 March 2001, at 1:11 p.m.

Re: First steps
Rob Gibbons -- Wednesday, 22 August 2001, at 12:15 a.m.

Re: First steps
takes one to know one -- Saturday, 14 September 2002, at 6:13 p.m.